‘How well do you know your partner?’ is a game, a conversation starter and a gentle reality check all at once. You will get some answers instantly, argue cheerfully about others and occasionally learn something new about the person you thought you knew completely. It works for new couples and for couples who have been together for years, in the same room or on a video call across the world. Here is how to play, simple scoring rules and 60 questions sorted from easy to deep.
How to play
Pick ten questions. For each one, both of you secretly write down two things: your own answer and your guess for your partner. Reveal at the same time. You score a point for each correct guess. After ten questions, the person with more points wins, and the loser chooses the next date or makes breakfast.
On a video call, write answers on paper and hold them up, or type them in a chat and press send at the same moment. By text, one person asks a question, both answer privately, then exchange screenshots. Our free couples quiz does the scoring for you.
- Write answers before revealing, no changing.
- Be generous: close enough counts.
- Ask ‘why?’ after every surprising answer.
Easy questions: favourites and habits
Warm-up questions with clear answers.
Twenty easy questions
Round 1
1. What is my favourite food?
2. What is my go-to drink order?
3. What is my favourite colour?
4. What would I order on a takeaway night?
5. What is my comfort film or show?
6. Which song do I sing most often?
7. What is my favourite season?
8. Am I a morning person or a night owl?
9. What is my most-used emoji?
10. What is my favourite snack?
11. Which app do I open first in the morning?
12. What is my shoe size?
13. Cats or dogs?
14. What is my middle name, or would I like one?
15. What is my favourite dessert?
16. Where would I go on a free weekend?
17. What is my least favourite chore?
18. What is my favourite thing to wear at home?
19. What do I always forget?
20. What is my favourite thing about where I live?
Memory questions about your relationship
These test how well you remember your story together, and usually spark a few debates.
Twenty memory questions
Round 2
21. Where did we first meet?
22. What was the first thing I said to you?
23. What did I wear on our first date?
24. What was our first film together?
25. Who said ‘I love you’ first?
26. What was our first trip together?
27. What was the first gift I gave you?
28. When was our first argument, and what was it about?
29. What is our most-used inside joke?
30. What was my first impression of you?
31. What song reminds me of us?
32. What was the best date we have had?
33. Where was our first photo together taken?
34. What did I cook for you first?
35. What is the longest we have gone without seeing each other?
36. Which of my friends did you meet first?
37. What nickname did I give you first?
38. What date do I consider our anniversary?
39. What is my favourite memory of us?
40. What was the funniest thing that happened on a date?
Deeper questions: dreams, fears and values
Slow down for these. Points matter less than the conversation.
Twenty deeper questions
Round 3
41. What is my biggest dream for the next five years?
42. What am I most afraid of?
43. What makes me feel most loved?
44. What do I do when I am stressed?
45. Who has influenced me most?
46. What am I most proud of?
47. What would my perfect day look like?
48. What do I find hardest about long distance, or about us living apart?
49. Where would I like to live one day?
50. What is something I have always wanted to learn?
51. What do I value most in a friendship?
52. What is one thing I would change about my job or studies?
53. How do I like to be comforted when I am sad?
54. What is my love language?
55. What childhood memory do I talk about most?
56. What would I do with a year off?
57. What is one thing I have never told anyone else but you?
58. What am I looking forward to most about our future?
59. What small thing do you do that makes my day?
60. What do I think our biggest strength as a couple is?
What your score means (not much, and that is fine)
A high score is fun, but a low score is not a sign that something is wrong. People change, preferences shift and small details slip. Couples who met recently, or who live apart and see each other’s daily routines less often, naturally miss more of the everyday questions.
What matters is curiosity. If you get an answer wrong, ask about it. ‘I thought your favourite season was summer. Why autumn?’ leads to the kind of conversation that makes you feel closer. Play again in a few months and see what has changed.
Ways to vary the game
Change the format to keep it fresh.
Lightning round
5 minutes
Ten easy questions, five seconds each, no thinking allowed.
Swap roles
15 minutes
Answer as your partner would, out loud, and let them correct you.
Question of the day
Ongoing
One question by text every morning, answers revealed at night. Ideal across time zones.
Team mode with friends
30 minutes
Play against another couple on a group call.
Q & A
A few questions you might have
How do you play ‘how well do you know your partner’?
Choose questions, then each person secretly writes their own answer and a guess for their partner. Reveal together and score a point for each correct guess.
What are good questions to ask to see how well you know your partner?
Mix favourites (food, film, drink order), relationship memories (where you met, first date) and deeper questions (dreams, fears, what makes them feel loved).
Can we play over a video call or text?
Yes. Hold up written answers on a call, or answer privately by text and exchange screenshots. A free online couples quiz can keep score for you.
What if we get a low score?
It is normal, especially for newer or long-distance couples. Use wrong answers as conversation starters and play again later to see what has changed.
Found an idea for the two of you?
Send it to your person and choose something to try together.
