Christmas is full of stories: childhood traditions, the year the turkey burned, the gift you still think about. Asking about them is one of the easiest ways to feel closer, whether you are curled up on the same sofa or on a video call from two countries. Here are 80 Christmas questions for couples, from light and silly to deep and reflective, plus simple ways to turn them into a game for a December date night.
How to use these questions
Pick ten to fifteen questions per session rather than racing through the list. Take turns choosing, and agree that either of you can skip any question. The best moments usually come from follow-ups: ‘Wait, why did you hate that present?’
These work well on a long-distance video call too. Put the questions in a shared note, pour the same drink and treat it as a date.
Fun Christmas questions
Easy openers that get you laughing.
Twenty fun questions
Light and silly
1. What is the best Christmas film, and why are you wrong?
2. Real tree or artificial tree?
3. What is the worst Christmas present you have ever received?
4. Which Christmas song could you happily never hear again?
5. If you were an elf, what would your job be?
6. Christmas dinner: what is the one dish you would fight for?
7. Have you ever peeked at a present early?
8. What is your most chaotic family Christmas memory?
9. Matching pyjamas: yes or absolutely not?
10. What is your go-to Christmas karaoke song?
11. Snow day or beach Christmas?
12. Which reindeer would you be?
13. What is the strangest Christmas tradition you have heard of?
14. What is your ideal Christmas breakfast?
15. Are you an early or last-minute gift shopper?
16. What decoration would you ban from our home?
17. Which Christmas character do you relate to most?
18. Hot chocolate, mulled wine or eggnog?
19. Would you rather wrap presents or cook dinner?
20. What is the most Christmassy smell?
Nostalgic Christmas questions
Questions that bring out childhood stories.
Twenty memory questions
Ask, then listen
21. What did Christmas morning look like when you were little?
22. What gift did you want most as a child?
23. Did you believe in Santa, and how did you find out?
24. What tradition did your family have that you thought everyone had?
25. Who in your family made Christmas feel special?
26. What is a Christmas you remember for the wrong reasons?
27. What food tastes like Christmas to you?
28. Did you have a special ornament growing up?
29. What is one Christmas you would love to relive?
30. Did your family go to any events every year?
31. What was the best Christmas surprise you ever had?
32. Which Christmas song reminds you of a specific place?
33. Did you make anything for family as a kid?
34. What was Christmas Eve like at your house?
35. What tradition faded that you miss?
36. Who did you visit at Christmas growing up?
37. What did you do on the day after Christmas?
38. What is a family Christmas story people still tell?
39. How did Christmas change when you became an adult?
40. What part of your childhood Christmas do you want to keep?
Romantic Christmas questions
For later in the evening.
Twenty romantic questions
Just for the two of you
41. What was your favourite moment with me this year?
42. What would our perfect Christmas Day look like?
43. Where would you love to spend a Christmas together?
44. What is a gift from me that you still think about?
45. What tradition should we start as a couple?
46. Which Christmas song feels like us?
47. What do you love most about how I celebrate?
48. If we could spend one winter anywhere, where would it be?
49. What is something small I could do to make your Christmas better?
50. When did you first know you wanted to spend holidays with me?
51. What do you imagine our Christmases looking like in five years?
52. What is your favourite way to be spoiled?
53. Which of our memories from this year would you put on a card?
54. What would you want to find in your stocking from me?
55. What is one thing you want us to do together this winter?
56. What makes you feel most loved at Christmas?
57. Which festive date would you love to try?
58. What is our funniest holiday memory together?
59. How should we celebrate our first Christmas living together?
60. What is one wish you have for us next year?
Deeper Christmas questions
For couples who want to reflect on the year.
Twenty reflective questions
Slow down
61. What are you most grateful for this year?
62. What was hardest for you this year?
63. How have you changed since last Christmas?
64. What do you want more of next year? Less of?
65. What does a meaningful Christmas mean to you now?
66. Is there a tradition you feel pressure to keep but do not enjoy?
67. How do you feel about spending holidays with my family?
68. What do you want our holidays to teach future kids, if we have them?
69. What did you learn about us this year?
70. Is there someone you miss most at Christmas?
71. What is one way I supported you this year that mattered?
72. What would make you feel less stressed this season?
73. How do you like to give, and how do you like to receive?
74. What is a goal you want us to share next year?
75. What does home mean to you?
76. Is there anything you want to forgive or let go of before the new year?
77. What would you like to do differently next Christmas?
78. Which values matter most in how we celebrate?
79. What made you feel proud this year?
80. What are you looking forward to most about next year with me?
Turn it into a Christmas game
Write questions on slips of paper and pull them from a mug or a stocking. Add rules: answer in one word, answer as your partner would, or give a point for every guess the other person gets right. For a long-distance version, each prepare ten questions in a shared note and reveal them one by one on a call.
Q & A
A few questions you might have
What are good Christmas questions for couples?
Mix fun ones (‘Real or artificial tree?’), nostalgic ones (‘What did Christmas morning look like when you were little?’) and deep ones (‘What are you most grateful for this year?’).
How do you play Christmas questions as a couple?
Take turns picking questions from a mug, allow skips, and add game rules such as guessing your partner's answer for points.
Can we use these questions on a video call?
Yes. Share the list in a note, choose ten to fifteen questions, and make the same hot drink so it feels like a date.
What are romantic Christmas questions to ask your partner?
Try ‘What would our perfect Christmas Day look like?’ or ‘What tradition should we start as a couple?’
Found an idea for the two of you?
Send it to your person and choose something to try together.
